I always thought being on the other side of things I would feel different…but I don’t. I know being a bridesmaid your there to support and be at the beacon call for the bride however I beg to differ! Possibly Its me just being a low key, easy going bride ! I don’t expect my bridesmaids to do everything at a drop of a hat for me, and neither will I do that for at one else! I believe just because your getting married does not give you the right away to abuse your friends or family. I can hardly even watch the show bridezilla because it really disgust me. People always say its your wedding do what you want… Of course that’s true, but by an means does that mean my friends and family shouldn’t struggle or do something that don’t want to because THE BRIDE said so. In the wedding world, I don’t find it fair for the bridal party to absorb all the cost for a bachlorette parties, bridal showers and the list goes on. Being in a wedding is almost like a full time job, except instead of making money, your spending it! I will say that I yet have been in a situation where I have not wanted, or been told I had to do something, however I have been in very few weddings and I am sure one of these days I will be in a position where I just don’t agree… The weddings I have been in, all of THREE, I have been upfront and not participated in events whether I was busy, out of town or financially not able to. I don’t think I should put my finances at risk for some one else. WOULD YOU ?
Friends make comments to me about stupid stuff that I could care less about ( wedding stuff) . I am not a diva. Things that may bother others, Don’t bother me. Sometimes I have to remind myself that I am the level headed one! After-all if something isn’t 100% perfect at my wedding, that’s okay ! Its not supposed to be !
Tomorrow is FRIDAY ! Yipppppeeee
Today our photographer emailed us a few photos from our engagement photo shoot. Here is how our day went…
We arrived in St Augustine around 5:00pm . Of course as soon as we got there a storm started brewing. We met with our photographer and begin our walk to start shooting. We had planned to change into two other outfits but because we were walking and walking and walking we decided to leave the outfits behind. This was a horrible mistake on my behalf because the first outfit I had chosen was the worst possible outfit for my body type. Oh well, I cant do anything about it now. Our photographer was great and took us to places I would have never imagined taking a photo in front of . Here are a few of the engagement photos. Enjoy !
265 Days till we get married! Happy Sunday !
All photos were taken and provided by Mark Bass Photography
Today we had a few wedding firsts I thought we could share . . .
We registered at our first store today, Bed, Bath, & Beyond!!!! It was fun, exciting, yet exhausting at the same time! It took all of three hours. Don was a great sport and enjoyed it also! We did get our first gift off of the registry already…Bride & Groom Tervis Tumblers
We tentatively booked our venue today. Because we are planning an out of town wedding it makes it a little difficult to view multiple venues. Being from the area and previously seeing the venue several years back, I was not to worried about seeing it however I do want Don to see it also! We are headed up to Tallahassee next weekend to hopefully fully commit to the venue. It’s looking like I will be having my April wedding! Yippee !!!
Lastly, today we went to Barnes and Nobles to take a look at wedding books. I wasn’t thrilled with any of them really except the one my mom already purchased! I also did not get a good chance to look at the books because another bride-to-be was talking my ears off I could barley even think!!!! I finally worked up the courage to say kindly, ‘ I don’t really see anything here, I am gonna check the magazines out.’ I was content with the magazine section bc I could sit down and it was QUIET!!!! This was my first piece of wedding literature
I am still thinking I am in a long dream and not waking from this great moment we have had! I am so happy we are able to spend the rest of our lives together.
Announcing our engagement has been a very happy thing for us. The way people react to the news has made me think a lot about how other people may view engagements and marriage! I know how I feel about marriage, but how about other people?
Some of the first questions/comment I get asked after spreading the news ….
1. Let me see your ring ….
2. How big is your ring ?
3. How much was your ring ?
4. Have you set a date yet?
Are you freaking kidding me? I don’t care who you are, I find it down right rude to ask someone, besides can I see your ring?, the dynamics of their engagement ring. Of course we all like beautiful jewelry, but getting engaged is more than just having a ring. It’s about the commitment between the two of you and spending the rest of your life together .
I would give no thought if Don proposed with out a ring or even a solid band. I am not materialistic at all. It just makes me think wether people really understand the TRUE commitment for marriage or if they find it just fun to wear the beautiful symbol to impress people. What are your thoughts ?
Until then… I am still deciding where
To have my wedding . It’s frustrating ! HELP !!!!
It was a typical Friday afternoon where I got off work and we headed up to a local neighborhood restaurant for a late lunch / early dinner ! Something I like to call ‘Linner’. It just finished raining and the sun came out bright as could be. Both don and I LOVE being on the water… Who doesn’t ?
We decided to head to this restaurant / bar right on Lake Jessup. We grabbed our drinks and headed to the water, as close to the water as we could get and away from all the people. We talked and talked and talked about everyday life and started talking about marriage ( actually a discussion we talk about a lot).
Out of know where, Don said can you keep a secret ? And of course I immediately said yes! Don repeatedly asked me If I would promise not to tell any one , mostly my family ! He told me he had a ring at home and he couldn’t wait any longer !!!!!
I thought he was joking ! He wasn’t! He asked if we could leave the lake to go home. As soon as we got home, he was on one knee and popped the question !
I actually did keep it from family till we saw them one week later for vacation! They were over flowing with joy ! It was very important to Don that we told them in person and not on the phone
I can’t stop looking at my hand. At one point the little muscles in my hand became sore from flexing my hand for people to see my ring when they asked. Which I have quickly found out that’s the first thing people ask when you tell them you got engaged. He did a great job picking it out I wouldn’t ask for anything more .
I am looking forward to using my blog as a way to share my planning , stress and even get ideas from fellow bloggers ! Let’s get started !
AND I SAID YES
We are getting married ! I am over flowing with joy.
Proposal story to follow !!!!